AN EDITED VERSION OF A LONG AND MUCH-SEGMENTED E-MAIL CONVERSATION BETWEEN THE LATE HUGH DEMPSTER AND PRISCA TURNER. IT WAS BASICALLY ABOUT THE BLESSING OF SAME-SEX UNIONS.

It took place over a period of months, between the 1998 and 2001 synod votes in the Diocese of New Westminster. The diocese was concurrently engaged in an official ‘dialogue’ process.[1]

 

After some unsystematic exchanges which were not recorded, it became clear that a significant discussion was developing. Hugh wrote:

 

First of all, Prisca, thanks for a response that actually paid some attention to what I had said. I was anxious in that comment to respond quickly, yet reasonably briefly, to the question of a biblical basis for this dialogue. I therefore borrowed a few bits from a longer piece I’ve been working on, and probably didn’t connect them well enough to make my reasoning clear.

          In my ongoing conversation with you, I want you to face the issue in a different way.

 

Prisca replied:

 

Yes, I too am glad to get down to some real Scriptural argument, and recognise that this little window is not easy to fit everything into, especially as some of us type quite slowly.

 

There is indeed a biblical basis that (in my opinion) compels (good word!) such a dialogue as ours in this Diocese on blessing same-sex unions and other matters about the treatment of homosexuals. Let me give two references (out of many):–

 

Luke 10:25-37: The Good Samaritan story is given to define “neighbour” in the summary of the law – “Love God, and love your neighbour.” What we often don’t notice here is that Jesus’ example of a neighbour, who loves and is to be loved, is a person despised and vilified by those in his audience, as one who does not keep all of God’s laws. Indeed, for that community, a “good” Samaritan is an oxymoron! Surely that is the intended message in this parable. (I sometimes imagine that, were Jesus telling the parable in our culture, it would have become “the Good Homosexual”!)

 

With all due respect, Hugh, your reasoning here is a bit off-beam.

            First a little NT background. To ask a self-styled Rabbi to define the ‘whole duty of man’ was to test his claim to be a real Rabbi; the Greek says that the ‘lawyer’ was trying to see what Jesus was made of. Dramatically enough, the Lord refuses to be examined in this way, and makes the questioner look foolish by causing him to answer his own question, thus demonstrating that his theory at least is quite sound. When he tries to ‘justify’ himself, he is shown to be insincere, for he was not wanting to know: he knows what he should be doing, but he wants to wriggle out of it in practice. I haven’t heard many sermons which bring out this personal drama, or emphasise the words “DO this, and you will live”, but myself tried to do this in my article called ...And Your Neighbour as Yourself’, published in CRUX as long ago as 1969. There is far more going on here than the enunciation however pointed of a moral platitude. Was the Lord seriously suggesting that we are any of us capable of going out and simply keeping either of the two great commandments just because we know we ought to? Not in the mind of any sinner who really knows himself!

            Nobody was thinking of the Samaritan as someone who, whether as active or passive ‘neighbour’, was wanting to overturn any part of the ethical demands of the Law. The contempt was inspired by a conviction that that community read the Law in a debased copy, and worshipped in the wrong place. The ‘lawyer’ will have been quite clear that HIS copy was a perfect one; so Jesus shows him a fictional Samaritan whose reading of his debased copy was good enough to make him a better Jew than some Jews. EVERYONE would have known the answer to the question “Is it right to have homosexual relations in any context at all?”, and it would have taken the form, if we want to use this passage in the matter, “What is written in the Law? How do you read it?”

             It is not possible to leap from the obligation to treat everyone as a human being with basic needs to an obligation to baptise all forms of behaviour in which people may wish to indulge. We may not neglect, starve or torture the likes of Clifford Olsen for his sexual orientation or the way it has manifested itself, but equally we owe him, and them, no praise, petting or public recognition. Not all our wants are good and beautiful, and not all of them are real needs. Our faith has never agreed that all human beings are owed even legitimate forms of sexual happiness, for example. The Good Samaritan supplied the victim with rescue, antibiotic, emollient, bandages, ambulance service, food, lodging and a worry-free convalescence; he did not leave money behind saying, “And when he’s recovered sufficiently to be thinking about his sexual orientation again, here’s enough cash to call the right kind of escort service to suit him!”

 

Matt. 25:31-46: In this parable of the last judgement, Jesus identifies himself with all the hurting people we have encountered – the hungry and thirsty, the sick, the prisoner (and the homosexual?) – and our fate hangs on the way we respond. “What you did (or did not do) to the least of these my brethren, you did (or did not do) to me.”

 

This is a very common modern misunderstanding of the Parable of the Sheep and the Goats. Last year I sat through a whole Synod that was based on it. Our Lord simply cannot be addressing us, or anyone who has actually read this parable, about OUR OWN judgement. That is not to say, of course, that we should not bother with works of mercy; but certainly we should not be anxious if we are not perfect in them, for “Who then shall be saved?”

            However, even if the modern popular view is right, where in this catalogue is the expression of my sex-drive? It is all about basic human needs that are of the esse, not necessarily of the superadded bene esse, of our lives. Wrestling with the difference between wants and real needs is perhaps never so painful as in matters of the heart, but all my single friends have to do it, and when widowed I shall have to do it again. Why should people with homosexual desires alone be exempt from the struggle?

 

And how have gays and lesbians been treated, over the past centuries, by our Christian society? Despised, rejected, condemned, shunned, excluded from community, murdered, driven to suicide – just for being what they are. We have in fact made life so miserable for them that (until fairly recently) most have felt it essential to conceal their identity as gay or lesbian – to live their whole lives “in the closet.”

 

What is honestly your authority for this opinion?

 

Is this the way we would choose to treat Jesus?

I submit that there is a very strong biblical basis for dialogue (and action!) on radical changes in the way Christians have traditionally thought about and treated their homosexual brothers and sisters.

The point is the same with the Sheep and Goats: “what you do to the least of these ...” – i.e., no one is so insignificant as not to merit your loving care. (Is this a “modern misunderstanding”? I don’t know what you mean by that. I haven’t been able to read your filedon’t think I can handle the languages.

 

The amount of ancient language is small, the argument pretty clear without it. I supply a translation; most people I believe could make it all out. Anyhow, the main contention in this paper is that there is nothing whatsoever in the passage about Christian conduct or how we who are in Christ are going to be judged. It is about the judgement of those who have never had the chance to embrace the Cross. Since I wrote it it has occurred to me that it may even go so far as to say that ONE SINGLE work of mercy would suffice to save such a person. Certainly there is nothing there about a perfect record of such works, nor can it legitimately be used to beat good works out of Christian people.

     The “loving care” again has nothing whatever to do with many of our felt wants, everything to do with basic need.

 

And again, there is nothing here explicitly about sexual orientation.

 

Precisely so. There is nothing implicit either. What does that say about its significance? It says among other things that our life, for time and eternity, is infinitely more complex than our genital urges: I am far far more than my heterosexuality, which except insofar as I use it responsibly and in accordance with God’s will, or not, has no lasting significance at all.

 

The other side of my argument is the observation that (to say the least) homosexuals have not been treated kindly in our society. You need my authority for that opinion? I would have thought it is pretty well known these days. I read newspapers. I listen to gays and lesbians. I read what some of them have written about their lives. And I use my imagination. (Surely the “closet” option is familiar? What if the world were reversed, and we heterosexuals were the closeted ones? If I daren’t go to church, or anywhere public, with my wife – in fact, daren’t let anyone suspect I have a wife, on penalty of maybe losing my job, my welcome in church, perhaps even being beaten up on the street? It doesn’t sound like a life anyone would choose.) If you really want specifics, I do have a few files of clippings and other documents which I can dig out (they’re not very well organized).

 

I admit that I had thought that you were referring in part to history, including late Roman and medieval history. The sources are frequently misread.

 

     None of us can be in favour of cruelty to anyone; but it is important to get this particular case into proportion. Is objection to particular types of behaviour unkind? How many people are genuinely badly treated for simply being homosexual, i.e. having a set of desires/temptations not shared by the majority? All you men, of any orientation, should try being a person housed in a female body in most times and places where the Gospel has never taken firm root!

            As for us heterosexuals, there was an experiment done by medieval Christendom which lasted several centuries (Rome is still a bit hungover from it still!) whereby a big enough closet was made to stuff into it ALL, priest or lay, who experienced ANY form of sexual desire.

 

I conclude that the way gays and lesbians have been treated in our society – and especially by Christians, ostensibly in obedience to God’s law – is pretty clearly in violation of the law to “love your neighbour,” especially considering the spin Jesus puts on it in those two passages. (This is the part glossed over too quickly in my earlier posting.) That is to say: the traditional interpretation of those Bible passages which explicitly condemn homosexual behaviour has led to a world in which a smallish group of people (gays and lesbians) don’t count as “neighbours,” deserving of our love. This is the fruit borne from that tradition. “By their fruits you shall know them,” Jesus said in another context (about false prophets). If the fruit does not meet the law of love, then I conclude that there is something wrong, something false, in that tradition.

 

It is frequently said nowadays that Christian teaching has produced this evil fruit. Given that no society has ever thought homosexual desire and behaviour to be unequivocally good, and that without even one biblical text contra observation shows them to be biologically bizarre, that is extremely doubtful. Societies always look, left to themselves, for some visible enemy: the unregenerate heart must after all have someone to hate. Sometimes, though by no means always, the object to hand may be homosexuals. It is no part of New Testament ethics to hate or harm anyone. That applies to those who persecute me for any cause: I must still treat them well: the whole Christian ethical tradition has always said so. The tradition is not to blame, but sinful people are, if individuals are abused. The musical score is wonderful, the performers are usually imperfect.

    

It is in that sense that I claim a biblical basis for re-examination of that tradition – which is what this dialogue is all about. (And another little insight, as I reread that sentence: I have been trying to formulate a basis for change in that tradition – and realize that what I have given here is incomplete for that. But it is, perhaps, a basis for re-examination of tradition – a basis for dialogue, as Gerry had put it in the beginning.)

 

Again, we are not discussing the necessity for kindness to anyone, nor do we usually think that there must be special indulgence to anyone to make up for harshness in the past.

 

Is my reasoning still off-beam? I hope I have made myself clearer than I did in my first try. And I do welcome criticism, as long as it can lead toward truth.

 

In the Good Samaritan story, my interest was not in the “personal drama” between Jesus and his questioner, nor in “the enunciation ... of a moral platitude,” but in the story’s cast of characters. Why did Jesus make his hero a Samaritan? It seems to me he must have been deliberately making a point: in the story, the “good” guys acted badly, the “bad” guy did it right. I.e., we, and those whose status we respect, are not necessarily “better” than someone we consider “inferior”. (This theme turns up often in the gospels – e.g., passages in which Jesus is criticized for associating with “tax collectors and sinners.”)

 

 

I was not actually implying that you, Hugh, had failed to get the point, but attempting to set the scene a bit. The Lord is sparring with someone who assumes his own superiority over this upstart would-be Rabbi. Jesus had never been to Rabbinical School to be taught the Law or how to teach it. The note that the ‘good neighbour’ was a Samaritan (two Temple officers having already evaded their duty) will indeed have brought a gasp from the audience. The “cast of characters” is an integral part of the drama.

 

I am not sure I completely understood all of your comments, but they didn’t seem to quarrel with this interpretation. (Of course, I am not suggesting any direct connection with homosexuality. The link is simply that our culture regards homosexuals as “inferior,” somewhat as NT culture did Samaritans.) I am contending that there is a biblical basis for reconsidering the church’s attitude to homosexuals. The two examples I have put forward were the parables of the Good Samaritan (Luke 10:25-37) and the last judgement (Sheep and Goats, Matt. 25:31-46).

 

The Parable of the Sheep and the Goats in Matt. 25 probably needs to be left out of it, as referring to the judgement of the heathen. In any case, whoever is ministering or not ministering to whom in the Parable, the ministry itself as in the Good Samaritan story is described in terms of serious and central needs of the needy.

 

It seems to me, Prisca, that you haven’t been thinking, as you express your public opposition to the blessing of same-sex unions, about Jesus’ attitude to the Samaritan in the Parable in Luke 10. He criticized the religious people, but showed the social outcast as doing the will of God. Shouldn’t we similarly side with the homosexual, who is the outcast in our society? I am concerned about the humane treatment of such people.

 

In that parable, as the setting shows, the Lord is dealing with, not ordinary Synagogue members, but prominent and powerful clerics, for whom He reserved His severest strictures. It is therefore legitimate, if it is legitimate to try to bring the Good Samaritan up-to-date in our Diocesan situation, to ask about the attitudes of our ecclesiastical equivalents to, say, those conscientiously unable to endorse homosexual acts. Our Chinese Christians got behind the mike at our climactic Synod literally in tears, at the prospect of the ruin of their testimony and usefulness in their own culture. Are they and others being treated humanely?

 

I too noticed the strong role played by our Chinese members on Resolution 9. My “attitude” to them (and to all those holding the same position), begins with a question – Why?

 

Why Such a Reaction to Homosexual Acts?

 

Why not? Not only does opposition to homosexual acts chime with the united witness of the Old Testament, the New Testament, the Septuagint version (which adds an allusion in Ez. 16), the Intertestamental literature, the Fathers, the Reformers and all Jewish and Christian ethicists until perhaps thirty years ago, it encompasses very large numbers of ordinary people in the pew (and outside all pews). It is not possible to attempt to put a whole three-thousand-year-old culture and tradition suddenly on the defensive and to cherish the illusion that there will be no reaction.

 

This takes me back a decade or more to the time when the homosexual issue began to emerge as a public debate (about the time the Gay Games came to Vancouver). Up to then, I might describe myself as “unable to endorse homosexual acts” – more accurately, unwilling to endorse, condemn, talk or even think about them at all. The Gay Games triggered a spate of protest in forums (such as letters to the editor) which I couldn’t help noticing. What struck me most was the strength of feeling expressed in these protests: the energy, the emotion, the anger, the depth of concern, even a suspicion of fear.

 

I too was very greatly affected in my thinking by the holding of the Gay Games in our fair city. I was in the position of leading the Council of Christian Churches of Greater Vancouver through a time when there was a violent public clash between secular indifference on the one hand and an hysterical ‘Christian’ reaction (expressed in a full-page ad. in the papers) on the other. We (and I, under siege from the media as a prominent Anglican because of the holding of a ‘Service of Welcome’ in my cathedral) had to produce a measured yet principled response in a real hurry. We then had, not many months later, because of our constitutional commitment to “Biblical and Traditional Christian Ethics”, to ask the member United Church presbyteries about their eligibility for membership in the Council.

            Up to then, my position was simply that I had not particularly studied any texts about the matter; but I took it for granted that there were some, for it would be curious indeed if the God of all creation had had nothing explicit to say about behaviour which was so plainly unbiological. Perhaps as an emotionally mature wife and mother (by 1987 I had been married 25 years) the ‘wrongness’ was plainer to me than it could be to any man: I cannot remember a time in my adult life when I have not known that if there was anything worthwhile for men in homosexual acts, there was certainly nothing for the female of the species, whose sexual maturity and satisfaction depends on a specifically feminine experience unattainable in such acts. (This was in my thinking and feeling quite independent of any desire for children, which was completely absent from my conscious mind when I was married.) This instinct may go far to account for the fact that there always seem to be an even smaller number of females than males at all interested in lifetime homosexual relations, and that where there are no children lesbian ‘unions’ are even less stable. I still believe, or have come round to believing again, that we have no need of any texts at all to know from observation that homosexual acts are biologically bizarre, and that this is so quite apart from the fact that they cannot lead directly to offspring. I believe, and have gone into scholarly print to this effect, that half of the Pauline argument in Rom. 1 has to do with the ‘biologically bizarre’ aspect of the thing, but that of course Paul sees no conflict between what the late Chief Rabbi of Great Britain called some years ago “the law of God” and that of “nature” in genital relations.

            Out of my formulation in the press and in a letter to City Hall (we did not quote Scripture or say anything about sin against God in this context) came the beginning of my own study of the explicit biblical references. Hence my eventual published paper, which circulated for some years with an introduction which I attach as a Word file. Some Christian people in this city thought us compromised, but we did not want to spoil our case by appeal to Biblical authority and spiritual standards with people for whom these were of no account. We thought, and said to City Hall, that one more Indian boy on the street with Aids after the Gay Games was one too many.

 

Ostensibly, this strong feeling was based on the Biblical condemnation of homosexual activity.

 

As I have said above, the Christian reaction was quite varied, and based on varied grounds.

 

But my immediate reaction to this was, and continues to be, one of disbelief. I find it simply not credible that a few obscure texts from Leviticus and elsewhere had moved people so strongly. The Bible, after all, has a lot to say about sins of many kinds (most of which receive a great deal more Biblical attention than this one), and even more about doing what is right. Issues of justice and love, for example, of fair sharing of wealth, and of care and concern for the disadvantaged, are far more prominent in the Bible, but do they draw the same kind of emotional attention? Hardly. A telling comparison is with usury, condemned in about as many Biblical passages as homosexual behaviour. How is it that the same protesters seem content to live in an economy whose very basis is the earning of maximum rates of return on one’s invested wealth? Where are the energetic, emotional protests against banks and the stock market?

 

I intend to split off some of my reply to this point into a new posting: See Shades of Marcion. Here I shall take up the matter of usury. The medieval church condemned usury in all its forms on the basis of “a few obscure texts”. The ban on taking money at usury was maintained for at least a millennium, in a Christian culture which had at least as well-thought-out and articulated a theology of the Just Wage, the Just Price, the Just War and so forth as ours. We have absolutely no monopoly on Christian consistency in this or any other sphere. The people would not soil their hands with it, leaving all money-lending (which developed societies have always used and needed) to Jewry (ironically enough). There was a tremendous amount of “emotional attention” paid to all such economic matters, very much less to personal and relational ones.

            The justification, or rationalisation, for our modern practice is a distinction between usury and interest (though that distinction seems to be to have broken down briefly in our economy in the early Eighties!). The “Are we talking about the same phenomenon?” argument really is relevant here. Usury in the Bible was indeed usurious, the rates being so crippling that personal slavery for debt was often the rapid result. And this was at times when inflation was so low that it took centuries for any to be discernible. The modern argument would be that that kind of lending is what is forbidden. For ourselves, isn’t the principle behind the prohibition that we may not enslave anyone in any way for our own profit? That is a far more far-reaching demand, it seems to me, than a disapproval of lending at interest. It may be doubted whether you, Hugh, or any of us, could move an inch in modern life without using our present financial system. We do it every time we shop, put money into the bank, or draw a salary or pension.

            A much better parallel might be contraception, with its strong personal and relational component. Until a few decades ago the whole Judaeo-Christian tradition condemned it: the problem had always been to keep the population up, and it was assumed that Scripture said the same. Meanwhile as TB of the ovaries vanished from the Western world, ethicists were forced to rethink the ban. It could be said, and still is said in one very significant Christian denomination, that the fact that there is nowadays not a peep out of anyone about its use in Christian marriage is simply a measure of how wickedly self-indulgent we all are. Except that God in His wisdom said nothing at all about it, but rather instructed married people to meet each other’s needs lest worse befall them. And yes, sundry methods, including intrauterine devices, were known to the ancient world.

            The Early Fathers, always required reading for Anglicans (they were what Hooker primarily meant by Tradition), were eloquent against contraception on the ostensible basis of two Old Testament texts. They were eloquent against homosexual relations on the explicit basis of the Leviticus and other texts. They were also eloquent against abortion, about which there are strictly speaking no texts at all: they said that it was murder, involving the destruction of a person made in the image of God; it was not far from their minds that it was nearly always fatal to the mother, who was in the same category. The need to keep the population up was not a minor consideration to them in any of these judgements; but they can be shown to have been unbiblical in only the first case.

 

I can only conclude that the emotional reaction against homosexuality is triggered by more than the Biblical texts. By what, then? I suspect that the driving force for anti-homosexual feeling and protest is something much more visceral than intellectual or even moral;

 

There is another possible kind of reaction to reckon with, and that is one rooted in a deep spiritual conviction.

 

… that the energy flows from a “gut” sense of discomfort, even revulsion, at the very thought of physical intimacy with a partner of one’s own sex. I find at least some hints of such feeling in my own experience – my initial reluctance to deal with the issue, for example.

 

Yes, I agree with you that there is a visceral reaction on the part of most of us, and that we have to be careful that we are not blinded by this to any facts. Some even react pathologically to the idea of heterosexual relations! In the late Eighties I knew less detail than I do now, and as I learnt more had to discipline myself to peel off, as it were, my emotions from my thinking in this as in other spheres. The more we know about the nature of the homosexual ‘act of love’ (which, when all’s said and done, in the male case involves entering an exit) the more careful we have to be about simple disgust. At the same time, isn’t it reasonable that people who are not disembodied spirits, but who only ever know one another in this life in bodies which are of one sex or the other, should experience a reaction which is tinged with emotion? Some people have an entirely principled objection to a situation in which their growing children may be encouraged to think of this kind of relating as being on all fours with heterosexual relations, or to come to their local parish church and be ‘turned’ by their friendly neighbourhood Anglican priest. Nor do we think an emotional reaction of disgust and horror peculiar in a victim of sexual abuse.

            I think that there are circles where more information about the physical facts would not come amiss: probably not apocryphal is the tale of the dear old lady who couldn’t understand what all the fuss was about in connection with gay men’s living together; it turned out that her definition of ‘gay’ was ‘unable to beget children’…

 

Another possible factor is cultural: what have people learned from the way others in their society think about and treat homosexuals? From long ago, I remember just one line of a song, I think from “South Pacific.” Children, the song said, don’t naturally dislike those of another race – “They have to be carefully taught!” When I see the Chinese members of our Synod, and the Africans of Lambeth, more strongly opposed than others to some accommodation with homosexuality, I wonder whether their culture has taught this lesson more strongly than ours. This is something I haven’t yet discovered, and would be interested to learn.

 

As far as I can see the main cultural factor is that homosexual expression is an epiphenomenon of extreme affluence, and always has been. Third World bishops, for instance (not to mention a majority of First World ones) cannot see why the Church should be rent asunder over what they view as the emotional problem of a tiny minority in the affluent West. In many places Christian people are not only accorded far less tolerance than active homosexuals in our societies, they are liable to get lynched all the more certainly if there is any suggestion that they are promoting any form of vice.

            As for children, they surely do not need to learn cruelty and hatred of visible difference from anyone. They need to unlearn them and learn Christ, like parents. They are no more noble than savages are.

 

So my attitude to others with whom I disagree is to seek the reason why, in the expectation that one side has something to learn from the other. The biblical arguments (that I expect to be offered) do not satisfy me, for at least two reasons: the one given above, that other biblical teachings are not pursued so eagerly, and the one I have been putting forward in the rest of this conversation, that this particular teaching seems to produce results that violate other, more certain, biblical teachings.

 

This encapsulates another point which I shall take up in detail under separate cover, as it were.

 

 

 

Why Such a Reaction to Homosexual Acts? Contd.

 

Hugh Dempster writes:

 

Oh dear! Here was I, thinking that over the Christmas “lull” I’d be able to put together a response to earlier comments from Barclay, and now it’s now, with that still undone and the flood-gates opening again. Well, I’ve known all along that there are many facets to this subject, and that a simple discussion of one topic would perforce branch out before long into a bunch of other tracks. Let me start with a few brief quibbles on Prisca’s last posting. Yes, I too am all behind...

 

Prisca had asked about my attitude to the Chinese members of our Synod, who spoke strongly against Resolution 9.

 

Actually I did not mean yours or that of any ordinary person in the pew, but rather church leaders such as are in conflict with our Lord in the context of the Parable of the Good Samaritan. Our Chinese members were particularly distressed, and said so.

 

I began by wondering why they took that position, and Prisca responded:

 

Why not? … It is not possible to attempt to put a whole three-thousand-year-old culture and tradition suddenly on the defensive and to cherish the illusion that there will be no reaction.

I am moving here to the reasonableness of such a reaction not merely on their part, but on that of any church person. Hence my title.

 

I don’t expect “no reaction,” but the rest of Synod was about equally divided pro and con;

 

Synod had not really had any time to think about Resolution 9, particularly as it was amended just before it came before us. The ‘debate’ was extraordinarily superficial.

 

I was asking why the Chinese reacted so differently. If the “three-thousand-year-old culture and tradition” you speak of is the Judeo-Christian teaching, then both groups presumably have been exposed to that (the Chinese, perhaps, not for so long), and it would not seem to explain the difference. (If you meant instead the Chinese ethnic culture, that’s another story. In that case, you would seem to be accepting that their position (and yours?) is based primarily in culture, not the Bible.)

 

I think that the Chinese position is grounded in reason first, their own pagan culture second, and the Bible has reinforced these for them only very recently. They cannot commend the Gospel in Chinese culture with sex-ethics like that, they are saying. I strongly suspect that even tolerance for all such differences is the fruit of a long exposure to the Gospel with its revolutionary concept of the value of every human being. The reaction grounded in culture is to be found everywhere and at all periods, quite independently of any Bible.

 

When I previously made the suggestion that culture might be a factor (and that children aren’t naturally racist, but must be so taught), Prisca replied:

 

As far as I can see the main cultural factor is that homosexual expression is an epiphenomenon of extreme affluence, and always has been. I am taking a long and broad view, having studied the thing historically as well as geographically. It has been an upper-crust and affluent thing always and everywhere. Third World bishops, for instance … cannot see why the Church should be rent asunder over what they view as the emotional problem of a tiny minority in the affluent West. …

This was overwhelmingly the majority view of ALL the bishops at Lambeth.

As for children, they surely do not need to learn cruelty and hatred of visible difference from anyone.

I should perhaps have said, soon after they cease to be toddlers and abandon parallel play.

 

I question both of these assertions, and the Third World bishops! It may well be that only in “the affluent West” has it become relatively safe for homosexuals to “come out” and live openly as what they are, but they exist in both Asia and Africa, and probably everywhere. I can understand that they may be relatively invisible to, say, the African bishops, when I see (New Internationalist 328, Oct. 2000, pp 18-19) that in over half the African countries homosexual acts are illegal, with penalties ranging up to death.

 

The premiss here is that there is something inherent in some human beings called “being homosexual”. Where do we suppose it to be located? In the genes, the chromosomes, the psyche? Are we supposing that there has been a major psychological shift in the makeup of human beings?

It would be good (I plead again) if we could be clear that what we are talking about is the acceptance of a particular kind of behaviour as feasibly pleasing to God in Christian people, not some state of mind or emotion which does not manifest itself in action.

 

I have no data at hand about children and racism, but have certainly read accounts of small children playing happily with others of different race, and, if questions arose (“Mommy, why is Bobby’s skin so black?”), being satisfied with very simple answers. Maybe the answer is that children must be taught either way – to accept, or to hate.

 

I think that I want to assert that children are sinful too. Where do their parents get wickedness from, to pass it along to them? But this is another hare to be set running: call it the Perfectibility question, if you like.

 

Finally, on usury (which I had put forward as a parallel to homosexuality – not that the issues are similar, but simply that both are uniformly condemned by scripture, in about as many passages), Prisca’s response noted changes in attitude through history and gave some reasons for these – and seemed to accept the result. But hold on! If we switch back to sexuality, shouldn’t those be my lines, which she would be opposing? Why should a historical change in attitude away from the Biblical position be acceptable in one case and not in the other? Again, this would suggest (as I have come to suppose) that the Church’s traditional view on sexuality is indeed based on something more than the Biblical texts themselves.

 

I am saying that the phenomenon is NOT the same as what is condemned in the Old Testament but unmentioned in the much more urban setting of the New (significantly interest-earning is accepted by Our Lord in the Parable of the Talents, if one wants to be exact!). Hugh, you have not taken me up about your own involvement in the system, but you are not telling me that you live detached from it? Have you taken all your pension money, turned it into gold and stuffed it into a sock under the bed? Would you not give someone who needs it a mortgage? Tell me how, and I will gladly yield to your scruples if I could thereby get you to think more tenderly of mine!

            I have a whole string of topics pending: I hope that you agree that we have to make this discussion less unwieldy?

 

More later!

 

 

Shades of Marcion, or Is Scripture Divisible or Unclear?

 

 

Early in the Second Century there arose a theologian called Marcion. He thought that there were two Gods in the Bible, a punitive, angry, legalist God, and the Christian God. On this basis he ‘outed’ all of the Old Testament, most of the Epistles and large parts of the Gospels as sub-Christian, leaving as Scripture really only the ‘Gentle Jesus meek and mild’ parts of the Gospels. His view was rejected as aberrant before he died, but never died with him, for it has been popping up again at intervals ever since. It is actually in modern terms a variant of anti-Semitism, for it flourished among the ‘German Christians’ during the Third Reich. Article VII was written to contradict the Marcionite heresy. It states among other things that in the New Covenant we are still to obey “those commandments which are called moral”.

            Why was Marcion mistaken? First and foremost, one cannot disentangle two ideas of God from one another in revelation: they are completely interwoven, the idea of His love and the idea that out of love He gives us standards and is angry when they are broken. Marcion ignored the teaching of Jesus Himself, that His Bible was one, and that the apostolic witness too was to be inspired and one with it. He ignored the position that is Dominical, Pauline and that of the writer to the Hebrews, that Christian people are obliged to ‘fulfil’ all of the Law which remains unfulfilled in the Person and Work of Christ, and in the power of the Holy Spirit to follow His example of a perfect obedience to its demands. He went in for ‘DIY’ integration, or non-integration, of Scripture; the Church said that the broad method of approaching the diversity within Scripture was already contained within Scripture: Jesus was the supreme authority over the whole, the interpretation of the Old Testament was to be governed by that of the New, and the meaning of the whole caboodle, whatever that was reverently found to be, was to be believed and obeyed.

            Furthermore, Article VI states, again in accordance with catholic doctrine, that Scripture contains perspicuously all that everyone needs to know about salvation (which as you all know includes sanctification and glorification in the New Testament view). Article XX says that the Church has no right “so to expound” one passage of Scripture “as to be repugnant to another”. It adds that the Church has no authority to require anyone to believe ‘extras’ (e.g. the necessity of baptising sinful behaviour as a part of being ‘loving’) which are not demonstrable from Scripture.

            It is in accordance with the catholic view of Scripture that as great a New Testament scholar as the still-living C.F.D. Moule said in my hearing when lecturing on Romans, “The Jew attempted to keep the Law in order that he might be saved; we are saved in order that we may keep the Law.”

 

But my immediate reaction to this was, and continues to be, one of disbelief. I find it simply not credible that a few obscure texts from Leviticus and elsewhere had moved people so strongly.

 

To comment first on “a few”: why should the number of texts matter? The First Great Commandment rests on fewer passages still. Is it therefore to be taken less seriously? Does the plethora of passages uncomplimentary to adultery make adultery ‘worse’ than my idolatry of self?

            “… obscure”: the Hebrew texts, like most of the Torah, are linguistically completely straightforward; no ancient or modern version has any difficulty with them, and all versions are wholly serviceable for those whose Hebrew is growing rusty. The Early Fathers, reading their Bible in Greek or a version of that, knew that they were about consensual penetration of the male by the male.

“… from Leviticus”: the Two Great Commandments have as their source that book and Deuteronomy, from which the Lord quoted them as part of His Bible and authoritative for us all.

            “… and elsewhere”: the “elsewhere” is with one exception Apostolic, and the Apostolic references contain back-reference to parts of the Torah. They too are clear to good Hellenists, if not always well translated in the modern English versions.

 

The Bible, after all, has a lot to say about sins of many kinds (most of which receive a great deal more Biblical attention than this one), and even more about doing what is right. Issues of justice and love, for example, of fair sharing of wealth, and of care and concern for the disadvantaged, are far more prominent in the Bible, but do they draw the same kind of emotional attention?

 

This is an interesting distinction, but not a Biblical one. Exercising sexual restraint and purity is not separate from “doing what is right”, but a vital aspect of it. Sexual and other standards are held together, indeed fused, throughout biblical ethics. What is this “justice and love” which does not encompass all of life? We started out in this discussion with a passage which makes love, for God and man, the all-embracing category. Has it now become a small thing?

            As for the “emotional attention”, it depends where you are. Certain concerns are a preoccupation in left-liberal circles. These, because we are human and find it hard to get our minds round so much material (plus the fact that biblical ethics condemn us all!), bleat about them all the time, but are silent in the face of our modern epidemic of unchastity, it seems to me.

            Biblical ethics are very even-handed, it seems to me, on the Left and the Right.

            I have just done a search of the New Testament terms for just/unjust and cognates. Those prepared to look at the results, perhaps with a good translation to hand, will see that there is no vital distinction within them between justice, goodness, righteousness etc. and their opposite negative equivalents.

 

So my attitude to others with whom I disagree is to seek the reason why, in the expectation that one side has something to learn from the other. The biblical arguments (that I expect to be offered) do not satisfy me.

 

Shouldn’t we all be expecting to learn more from Scripture all our days? Particularly if we are open to having our assumptions challenged by what we find there?

 

… for at least two reasons: the one given above, that other biblical teachings are not pursued so eagerly…

 

I am open to hearing in what way my life and thinking need correction. I go to church partly for this.

 

… and the one I have been putting forward in the rest of this conversation, that this particular teaching seems to produce results that violate other, more certain, biblical teachings.

 

This brings us smack up against the question of what love for neighbour is, and how it relates to the revealed will of God.

            That needs a new discussion.

 

 

Is There an Analogy with the Good Samaritan?

 

Hugh wrote:

 

Continuing my conversation with Prisca… By way of reprise, this started with my claim (against a denial) that there is a biblical basis for reconsidering the church’s attitude to homosexuals (as we are trying to do in this dialogue). The chief theme I have in mind is Jesus’ frequent alignment with “inferior” people, the poor, the outcast, the foreigner, the despised. (In effect, I guess, the “preferential option for the poor” of Latin-American theologians.) Homosexuals, in today’s society, surely fit in that category – and this, I claim, needs to be considered over against those scripture passages which condemn homosexual behaviour. The two examples I put forward were the parables of the Good Samaritan and the last judgement.

 

First, about the Good Samaritan.

The note that the ‘good neighbour’ was a Samaritan (two Temple officers having already evaded their duty) will indeed have brought a gasp from the audience. The “cast of characters” is an integral part of the drama. The Lord is also dealing with, not ordinary Synagogue members, but prominent and powerful clerics, for whom He reserved His severest strictures.

 

So far we agree.

 

It is therefore legitimate, if it is legitimate to try to bring this up-to-date in our Diocesan situation, to ask about the attitudes of our ecclesiastical equivalents to, say, those conscientiously unable to endorse homosexual acts...

 

I’ve been trying to understand this sentence as raising a question about the parallel I draw between the parable and our situation, but can’t make it come out to any question I believe you would ask. The end part, about attitudes (perhaps mine?) to those “unable to endorse homosexual acts,” I can respond to, but not really in the context of the parable. (In that context, it would translate into attitudes to those unable to endorse Samaritans – perhaps the “prominent and powerful clerics” you mentioned as targets of Jesus’ severest strictures.) I’ll therefore make that a separate response message.

 

I was trying to say that the connection with homosexuality in general and our Diocesan situation in particular is so tenuous as to be nugatory. We are asking whether a particular lifestyle is one which God can ‘bless’.

 

Were not Samaritans then and homosexuals now similarly despised? That’s essentially the connection. I agree with that last sentence as a fair statement of the question we are addressing (except perhaps for the unfortunate word “lifestyle”). But then you go on to make characterizations which, it seems to me, beg that very question.

 

Our Lord’s ideal Samaritan is of course to be assumed to be exemplary in his life in general: his ‘inferiority’ is a religious/ethnic thing not tied to something universally agreed to be sinful. In the episode of the Woman at the Well, the Lord was prepared to challenge a real-life Samaritan about sex-ethics where these were the issue. But they or any other form of ungodliness are not even remotely the issue in Lk. 10.

 

To make this comparison does not, I think, “leap ... to baptise all forms of behaviour.” And it means that your “cash to call the right kind of escort service” is actually attached to the wrong player in this little drama – your presumed homosexual should be playing the part of Samaritan, not victim. :-)

          When you say “tied to something universally agreed to be sinful” or “any other form of ungodliness” in arguing against my linking of the Good Samaritan story with homosexuality, are you not by implication assuming that same-sex relations in particular cannot be blessed by God? I am not sure about the specific issues separating Jews and Samaritans (they worshipped on different mountains, for one?), but would not Jesus’ hearers assume that the “Samaritan lifestyle” could not be blessed by God? And would we perhaps (in the light of this parable) disagree with that? Again, you say that the Samaritan of the story “is of course to be assumed to be exemplary in his life in general.” Would not the opposite be assumed by those hearers? Would they not consider the label “good Samaritan” an oxymoron? Wasn’t that likely Jesus’ point in casting his story as he did?

 

I am saying that the teaching of the Parable has everything to do with the meeting of fundamental human need, and absolutely nothing to do with any messing about in bed of any variety! (Yes, there is an oscillation, within the Parable and in our thinking about it, between the active and passive senses of “neighbour”. I am primarily concerned at this point to emphasise that certain kinds of satisfaction are quite distinct from basic human needs, and the duty to meet them, which together create human rights.)

 

Yes (if you must put it that way), but it also includes a striking warning against denigrating (or excluding from your “neighbour-hood”) certain others just because you think God can’t bless them. As I indicated before, I set this story alongside other passages in which Jesus aligns himself with people “beyond the pale” – most often “tax collectors and sinners” – and is criticized for so doing. My argument supposes only that many Christians today treat homosexuals in much the way Jews of Jesus’ time treated Samaritans. Is that not a legitimate analogy?

 

I think that a number of points need to be made. Your remarks are in inverted commas.

 

1.     You state “this started with my claim (against a denial) that there is a biblical basis for reconsidering the church’s attitude to homosexuals (as we are trying to do in this dialogue).”

 

Actually we are not doing that, as you later admit: we are asking whether homosexual relations are a possible Christian behaviour which God can ‘bless’. We are not talking about anybody’s ‘orientation’ as such. (Sometimes this may be at odds with actual behaviour, or prove to be so in the long run.)

 

2.     “The chief theme I have in mind is Jesus’ frequent alignment with ‘inferior’ people, the poor, the outcast, the foreigner, the despised. (In effect, I guess, the ‘preferential option for the poor’ of Latin-American theologians.) Homosexuals, in today’s society, surely fit in that category – and this, I claim, needs to be considered over against those scripture passages which condemn homosexual behaviour.”

 

Even if it were granted that our society really oppresses homosexuals, it is not homosexuals as such, or our society, which are in question in our Diocesan situation. Isn’t it clear, furthermore, that, for example, wife-beating is generally disapproved? We do not conclude that wife-beaters are thereby rendered fine fellows subject to cruelty and gross misunderstanding, and that the Good Samaritan is analogous to them. By this far-fetched method, absolutely any behaviour could be smuggled into our reasoning as admirable, or at least venial.

 

3.     “I’ve been trying to understand this sentence (about The Lord’s reserving His severest strictures for religious leaders) as raising a question about the parallel I draw between the parable and our situation, but can’t make it come out to any question I believe you would ask. The end part, about attitudes (perhaps mine?) to those ‘unable to endorse homosexual acts,’ I can respond to, but not really in the context of the parable.”

 

The Samaritan in the parable is shown to be exemplary by contrast with two highly-educated religious professionals, who signally failed to obey the Law which Jesus’ interlocutor has just established as representing the whole (horizontal) will of God for mankind. To get these people even more into context, we need to understand that these were individuals who were really in earnest about their religion. No doubt we are meant to understand that there was a purely selfish, ordinarily human, motive for their neglect (i.e. the brigands who notoriously lurked in the caves and boulders above the Jericho road might want a piece of them too!); but they were also coping with an equally human conflict of genuine duties. The victim looked dead. To establish that he could still be helped involved touching him. Whether the two functionaries were coming or going from their service to God is unclear from the Greek; but either way they would have been rendered ritually unclean for many days, and thus unable to serve, by reason of their contact with a corpse. Their love for God was expressed, in their minds, even supremely expressed, in their Temple service to Him. Someone else, they would have reasoned, was more freed up to look after the mess on the roadside. The real point of the Parable is that when push comes to shove, love for God does not ignore the visible object, or it is unreal. Precisely the same point is being made in the well-known long passage at I John 3-4. It is teaching about Theological Ethics, to use the technical term: how do we hold together the two Great Commandments?

            I want to say that if there is a current and local parallel to these religious officials, it is much more plausibly with the attitude which ignores the obvious distress of ordinary church members, in favour of a doctrinaire insistence that because I am high up in the Church I know better what God wants done. I do not refer to you, Hugh, or to ordinary members of Synod…

 

4.     “When you say ‘tied to something universally agreed to be sinful’ or ‘any other form of ungodliness’ in arguing against my linking of the Good Samaritan story with homosexuality, are you not by implication assuming that same-sex relations in particular cannot be blessed by God? I am not sure about the specific issues separating Jews and Samaritans (they worshipped on different mountains, for one?), but would not Jesus’ hearers assume that the ‘Samaritan lifestyle’ could not be blessed by God?… Again, you say that the Samaritan of the story ‘is of course to be assumed to be exemplary in his life in general.’ Would not the opposite be assumed by those hearers? Would they not consider the label ‘good Samaritan’ an oxymoron? Wasn’t that likely Jesus’ point in casting his story as he did?”

 

Actually my reference is to an assumption which would most certainly have been shared by absolutely everyone at the time of the telling of the Parable. We need to be completely clear that neither the Lord Himself, nor any of His contemporaries who were in any kind of position of authority, whether Jew or Samaritan, could possibly have countenanced, let alone practised, same-sex relations. Not only could He not, for logical reasons already stated, have been thinking about vindicating Samaritans, as opposed to rebuking Jews. (For a really telling ‘exemplary neighbour although’ he could have chosen a much more spectacularly despised Gentile, after all. The Jews really did think of the Gentiles as a bunch of immoralists.) This teaching is much deeper than our typical modern sociological, horizontally-human, concern. He chose as a lay-figure for a story about love for neighbour someone who stood for an hereditary religious/ethnic enmity going back at least five centuries, because the Law was held in common: and reading it in an inferior copy, not to mention worshipping in the wrong place, are shown in the story to be no bar to pleasing God. ‘How do you read it?’ is a very pointed question!!! There was mutual contempt and institutionalised avoidance between two old communities, into which people were born and out of which there was no exit. They occupied different lands and had two separate Temples. Both priest and Levite were professionally concerned with the accurate understanding of the Law and with ceremonial correctness. Jesus cannot possibly have been saying anything like ‘The Samaritan is a superb pastry-cook (admirable but irrelevant) and here showed himself to be an excellent neighbour too’, or ‘The Samaritan is a keen entomologist (morally neutral but irrelevant) and was a wonderful neighbour to a wounded Jew’, let alone ‘He beats his wife regularly every Sabbath, and is exemplary in his love for neighbour’… !

            Perhaps it would help our discussion to put homosexual relations into their Biblical context. They keep company with child sacrifice, incest, adultery, murder (Leviticus); (as an aspect of sexual immorality in general) with wicked schemes, murder, adultery, theft, false testimony and defamation (Mt. 15); with every kind of vice, violence and wickedness in Rom. 2; with general unchastity, idolatry, adultery, theft, ruthless acquisitiveness, intoxication, defamation, and swindling (I Cor. 6); with parricide, matricide, murder, adultery, slaving, fraud and perjury (I Tim. 1); and by implication with all the other ‘works of the flesh’ in Gal. 5. They would certainly not have been attributable, or attributed, to a Samaritan qua Samaritan by the most hostile Jew.

 

5.     “[The parable] also includes a striking warning against denigrating (or excluding from your ‘neighbour-hood’) certain others just because you think God can’t bless them. As I indicated before, I set this story alongside other passages in which Jesus aligns himself with people ‘beyond the pale’ – most often ‘tax collectors and sinners’ – and is criticized for so doing.”

 

I really don’t know anyone in my church who denigrates, excludes socially or thinks of as ‘unblessable’ homosexual or any other persons.

Didn’t the Lord, in his mostly private but occasionally documented chats with the Quislings and Street People actually always get them to align themselves with Himself? His love, reflecting the love of God, was never a soft thing. Repentance and faith with power for amendment of life were part of the offer, without which there was no ultimate blessing. There was no question of what Bonhoeffer called “cheap grace”.

 

6.     “My argument supposes only that many Christians today treat homosexuals in much the way Jews of Jesus’ time treated Samaritans. Is that not a legitimate analogy?”

 

Even if the premiss be granted, no, except in the most remote and subsidiary way. I have tried really hard, but find the analogy really too convoluted.

 

 

Is Sex-experience a Basic Human Need?

 

About the Sheep and Goats:

 

We have already agreed that whoever is ministering or not ministering to whom in the Parable, the ministry itself as in the Good Samaritan story is described in terms of serious and central needs of the needy.

            The “loving care” again has nothing whatever to do with many of our felt wants, everything to do with basic need.

 

Yes and no. It isn’t about satisfying greed, but our bodies have a way of making us “feel want” whenever we suffer a “basic need.” Hunger and thirst (which are mentioned in the parable) are felt wants, signalling our basic needs of food and drink. Companionship may be both a want and a need (for, say, the sick or prisoner). And of course, what about our sexual drives? They are surely a basic need for our species, and (probably therefore) are given to us as fairly urgent wants. So I think that distinction may not be quite as clean as you suggest.

 

Yes, the visiting of people in their sickness or imprisonment does look like a care for them as social beings. Certainly, to reiterate my earlier distinction, human contact and the sense of being cared for by other people is of the bene esse, if not of the esse, of most people’s lives most of the time. For the very young or otherwise vulnerable it may make the difference between life and death in particular cases. However, we need to remember that the infirmary and other place of sickness, let alone prison, have been and still are by no means necessarily places where one got fed, or cared for in other basic ways, unless someone cared enough to visit there. So I do not think that those parts of the Parable can be used to argue for the basic nature of the need for companionship. Absolutely essential in the action of the Good Samaritan was the brave and sacrificial act of physical rescue: this is why the Parable is sometimes expounded (however methodologically unsoundly!) as an allegory of Christ’s rescue of the sinner, who is mortally wounded and powerless to help himself.

            Our whole tradition teaches that for companionship, affirmation and personhood we always can, and sometimes must, do with God only.

            That we have been programmed to desire sexual union so as to propagate the race is clear. It is incidentally clear that homosexual ‘union’ is an exceedingly roundabout method of arriving at the same result. The Creation Mandate to ‘fill up the earth’ used to be regarded as justification for the view that, to quote Humanae Vitae, “Every marriage-act must be open to life.” We cannot conclude that all without exception are called to do their bit, nor outside the Roman obedience do we nowadays make the command mean that all the married have a duty to have as many babies as they possibly can in the time.

            If we are talking about our longing for sex-experience or any aspect of it, it may be so overwhelmingly strong (in many women the desire for awakening comes before the desire for children, and conceivably the second is always qualitatively different in the two sexes) that the little difficulty that nobody has offered us marriage is experienced as terrible deprivation by individuals. I have many younger friends who live with very much pain because of this. The short-term, or sometimes lifelong, pain is the greater for believers because they do not feel free to assuage it in unworthy ways. They are quite clear what they want, and tell the Lord about it frequently and with tears, but must like all of us accept that when the answer is still “No” or “Not Yet” what they are feeling is a want not a need. I have never known any rational Christian to die under this particular deprivation, or to consider that God, the Church or society have failed to grant them some sort of abstract ‘right’ to sexual enjoyment.

There is a Christian virtue called Acceptance which enters into all our deep frustrations. When one has gone through this sort of dark experience, whether because of sexual desire or something else, one can and does discover the Lord in a new way. One discovers that grace and forgiveness, as the Lord’s Prayer indicates, are indeed among our basic needs, and are always forthcoming when we ask for them. Suffering borne with and for Christ is less heavy, and has some very beneficial fruits of the kind that do last longer than the pain.

I know whereof I speak.

 

[O]ur life, for time and eternity, is infinitely more complex than our genital urges: I am far far more than my heterosexuality, which except insofar as I use it responsibly and in accordance with God’s will, or not, has no lasting significance at all.

 

Yes, but! We are very complex beings. Each one of us is certainly far more than our sexuality, yet our sexuality is a very important part of our being. Without it, we would not be what we are. It is surely not a thing to be lightly ignored. Christianity, remember, does not teach immortality of the soul, but resurrection of the body – so I wouldn’t be so sure that sexuality “has no lasting significance.”

 

We have it on the very best authority that there is no marriage in the heavenly life.

            It was, I believe, Aquinas who postulated SEVEN sexes, each capable of complete interpenetration. His grounds were that what is coming has to be at least as full of joy, colour and passion as what we have here. That is surely a right approach. What we cannot conclude is that we are sexual in our souls, except of course in so far as the FEMININITY of all people before God is a very important Christian idea. It is hard for me to imagine a life for me which is not passionately heterosexual, but I have absolutely no grounds for expecting that I am going to get simply more of the same later!

 

Besides, if you think sexuality so unimportant, why are you determined to impose a different set of rules on some people just because their sexuality happens to be of the wrong kind?

 

I don’t and I am not. If, however, you put to me the question, “Have you stopped denying your husband yet?”, I cannot answer it in any way creditable to myself…

            Do you know of any way in which, in my thinking or living, I am harder on others than on myself?

 

… Again, we are not discussing the necessity for kindness to anyone, nor do we usually think that there must be special indulgence to anyone to make up for harshness in the past.

 

I am discussing the necessity for kindness to everyone (regardless of sexual orientation), and I am not asking for “special indulgence” for anyone, but rather, for gays and lesbians, the same “indulgence” the rest of us take for granted, to put an end to “harshness” in the present.

 

I meant to say that the necessity of kindness to everyone was not up for grabs, but a ‘given’. What does need defining is what kindness is. Is it kind to promise what is not and what God cannot bless? This is how I think of same-sex ‘unions’.

 

None of us can be in favour of cruelty to anyone; but it is important to get this particular case into proportion. Is objection to particular types of behaviour unkind?

 

Objection to hurtful behaviour is proper. But yes, it is unkind to make a person’s life miserable by objection to behaviour that harms no-one else, and is the only possible behaviour for that person. And I think the proper “proportion” for this case is far greater than you seem willing to admit.

 

That gets us into the very important question of whether there must be visible harm before we must say that something is inconsistent with Christian ethics. That is yet another discussion.

 

 

Must Sin Involve Visible Harm?

 

 

Hugh has said:

 

“Objection to hurtful behaviour is proper. But yes, it is unkind to make a person’s life miserable by objection to behaviour that harms no-one else, and is the only possible behaviour for that person. And I think the proper ‘proportion’ for this case is far greater than you seem willing to admit.”

 

Plenty could be said about whether it is right to bring into the public arena details of one’s own bedroom habits which most of us regard as private, and then claim that one’s life is being made miserable because the reaction is adverse. I write as someone who remains quite incurious when I learn that two unrelated men, or women, live in one dwelling. What they do in their bedrooms is not at all my business until they want to tell me all about it.

            As for “the only possible behaviour”, when did we arrive at the point in our thinking where we accept that one segment of rational, adult Christian society, with all the Lord’s resources of grace available, cannot help acting on its affections and passions? None of the rest of us are infantilised in that way, surely, or wish to be? I emphasise again that we are not in this Dialogue, or when we vote at Synod, dealing with society in general, but with professing Christian adults.

The “harms no-one else” part of this argument is, however, what I wish to address in this slot. Pace my friend Gerry[2], the more lurid medical aspects (in respect of which the figures for lesbians tend to be very low, about the same as for nuns!) are not quite the point. I should buy the “no harm” claim only in any case where there were no concomitant betrayed spouses, deserted children, confused adolescents, enemies of God caused to blaspheme, violated Christian consciences, dead-ended lives, broken-hearted lovers, eager never-married maidens or men, where emotional coldness and ruthless selfishness were not reinforced, where there was no failure to labour and sacrifice so that children might be born to serve God and the world. Then and then only could it fairly be claimed that there was no visible or palpable harm. (In practice, the very least harm that is done consists in the deepening of emotional neediness, not its healing, and a sense of alienation from the Creator of one’s body, which frequently manifests itself in the demand that the Church ‘bless’ and so whitewash what the individual knows to be deeply wrong.)

My point is a point of principle: must human reason be satisfied that the consequences of disobedience are obviously harmful before we will obey? Is not all sin fundamentally against God? Is there not sin which is against God only? Do I know better what love is than the Author of love, who loves me and all the others more than any of us can conceive?

 

 

Did Someone Say Something about the Plight of Homosexuals?

 

How many people are genuinely badly treated for simply being homosexual, i.e. having a set of desires/temptations not shared by the majority?

…All you men, of any orientation, should try being a person housed in a female body in most times and places where the Gospel has never taken firm root!

 

Hmm. And in some places where the Gospel has taken root! I find it interesting that some of the traditionalists determined not to allow equal status for homosexuals are also determined not to allow the same for women.

 

I hold absolutely no brief for those who would deny my equality as a woman, in or out of church. Coming as I do out of the oppressing (!) classes of British society, with a powerful sense of noblesse oblige ever since I can remember, to extend privilege to all women has been a major concern of mine all my adult life. It probably helps me that thanks to deeply Christian parents I have always been ‘equal’: education in the very best places, and a sense that that privilege demanded piles of work from me by way of return, have seen to that. I do not find any compelling rationale for my equality anywhere but in the fact that those who treated me so well believed that Jesus had hung on His Cross for me, as for my brothers. Where else do we find any dynamic for change, any sense that the might of the male is not right? Our very critique of Western society for its continuing shortcomings comes out of the Gospel. What other source has it?

            Catholic Christianity has never held that it was sinful in principle to be a woman, ‘practising’ or not. I have been equal since Pentecost, as the Old Testament texts cited by Peter show. The New Testament echoes with the Great Row about whether a gentile can be a Christian: that a woman, never able to be a full Jew, can be a Christian, is absolutely taken for granted. Women were the first frontier the Gospel crossed, before even the Samaritan one.

            I do not think that I or anyone has a ‘right’ to ordination or a salary as a cleric, a ‘right’ to a marriage or to be deeply loved by any human being, nor have I at nearly 63 any ‘right’ to bear more children; I never did have any ‘right’ to beget any!

 

I should expect that “a person housed in a female body” might be more sensitive than others to the plight of homosexuals in our society – yet for the second time you express some reservation about the truth of the facts I have mentioned.

 

All over the world, as a woman, I may be denied adequate food, medical care in spite of my more complicated physiology, all educational opportunity, civil rights, freedom to choose my marriage partner or my friends; I may be subject to routine genital mutilation, punished for my own rape, imprisoned first in my father’s, then in my husband’s house, traded for money, forced into a harem with other ‘wives’, valued and eventually devalued on the basis of my physical charms if any, battered and discarded as worthless. Have I said enough?

I am still waiting for the privileged professional victims of the West to get their eyes up off themselves and to lift one finger for women who suffer like this!!! This is the kind of identification which would commend itself to me, not an attempt to use the truly oppressed as a stalking-horse for homosexual or other vice.

I think it not inappropriate to mention that for good measure my ancestry on my mother’s side (the side that counts in this context!) is Jewish. Now the Jewish Holocaust really was persecution for what one was and could not help: Christian people and atheists of Jewish origin perished equally in the gas chambers.

 

Will it help if I remind you of one, concrete, local example? On March 11, 2000 Hamed Nastoh, 14, honour roll Grade 9 student from Surrey, jumped to his death from Patullo Bridge. He left a note saying he was doing it to escape endless tormenting and name-calling from fellow students, who called him gay, faggot, geek, uncool, over and over and over again. (One student said some children were still calling him a faggot after his death.) He was not gay. [Source: The Province, March 16, 2000, pages 1, 3.]

Of course, that’s only one (and maybe he doesn’t count because he wasn’t really gay).

 

How could anyone tell either way? To have some homosexual feelings, even a major ‘crush’ on someone of the same sex, is part of growing up for nearly everyone. I ask again, where is ‘gayness’ located? Would an autopsy have revealed it?

 

I’d say that’s one too many – and even so, it is just one of many more. Was Christian teaching on homosexuality responsible for Hamed’s death? I would guess it’s a pretty significant contributing factor. The bullies in his school learned somewhere that “gay” was not a nice thing to be. (Wasn’t it Surrey school parents that made a fuss about gay-friendly teaching? Ignorantly afraid, apparently, that it might make their children gay!) Christian teaching doesn’t create bullies – but it may “give them permission” to target gays, or perhaps to use “gay” as a put-down taunt.

 

I really don’t know what was at work there, except the aforesaid natural bloody-mindedness of adolescent children. Any insult would probably have done as well. Girls get tormented for late physical development, or being virtuous, for instance. In the over-sexualised culture of the High School it is perhaps assumed that virginal students have something the matter with them. But certainly sheer IGNORANCE of Christianity is quite as likely to have been a factor, isn’t it?

            I really do not think that it is profitable to ignore the obvious: the acting out of homosexual impulses is biologically bizarre, and this fact is plain to all with half an eye. Parents do not want their children recruited in the schools, or the churches, and most children are aware of the biological facts, perhaps all too aware. No, I do not consider heterosexual promiscuity ‘normal’ either.

 

I think that we have to be careful not to make deductions from Scripture about what the Lord “would have said if...” when what he DID say, about sexual sin in general and the normative nature of heterosexual monogamy in particular, is quite clear. If there is no explicit account of what must have been His convictions about homosexual relations, it can only be because then as now the vast majority were subject to temptations to heterosexual aberrations from the norm. He did not admit the rightness of anything but heterosexual monogamy, or call anything else ‘union’. He is our authority about love for neighbour, and our authority about sex-ethics too.

We have to let God Himself define what love is, rather than bring our conception of it to Him and ask Him to rubberstamp it.

 

It seems to me He did just that in the two parables we have been discussing, and went out of His way in the process to make clear that it is owed also to those neighbours we (for some reason) dislike.

 

I say it again: Yes, love is owed to all, but ‘love’ is not to be identified with the commendation of vice.

 

 

Visible Harm contd.

 

 

Prisca writes:

 

Plenty could be said about whether it is right to bring into the public arena details of one’s own bedroom habits which most of us regard as private, and then claim that one’s life is being made miserable because the reaction is adverse. I write as someone who remains quite incurious when I learn that two unrelated men, or women, live in one dwelling. What they do in their bedrooms is not at all my business until they want to tell me all about it.

            As for “the only possible behaviour”, when did we arrive at the point in our thinking where we accept that one segment of rational, adult Christian society, with all the Lord’s resources of grace available, cannot help acting on its affections and passions? None of the rest of us are infantilised in that way, surely, or wish to be? I emphasise again that we are not in this Dialogue, or when we vote at Synod, dealing with society in general, but with professing Christian adults.

 

I am jumping the queue to respond to this message because I disagree so strongly with these two comments – not so much in what they say, but in what they take for granted. I find both of them quite mischievous.

First, the lives of gay and lesbian people are made miserable, not by adverse reaction to publication of their “bedroom habits” but by “adverse reaction” to the (known or assumed) “habits” themselves. In the situations that matter (that is, those in which harm results), the “publication” (true or fictional) is often made not by themselves but by others – with the deliberate intent to stimulate “adverse reaction.” I agree with your suggestion that this is not right.

 

Before you question what I just said, let me cite a real example, that of the Rev. Jim Ferry (already public knowledge since his book, “In the Courts of the Lord,” tells the story). He was not the one to “bring into the public arena” certain details of his life (in fact, he took some care not to do so); that was done (whether one thinks it appropriate or not) by the Church, in the persons of a snoopy parishioner and his bishop. And you are right, that action certainly produced an adverse reaction, and made Jim’s life (I would think) fairly miserable.

 

I may be mistaken, but wasn’t there an undertaking made to his Diocesan which was broken? But be that as it may, we are not talking about a matter of clerical discipline some time ago in another Diocese.

 

Or take Hamed Nastoh, whom I mentioned earlier. He published nothing. Others created and “published” such details (probably fictional) with the deliberate intent of making his life miserable by their own “adverse reactions” – and they succeeded to such an extent that he took his own life.

 

Nor are we talking about a young man who was not asking for his ‘union’ to be ‘blessed’ in a diocese of the church of my birth and baptism.

 

Your comment implies (without actually stating – that might be too obviously fallacious) that the whole problem is a desire of gays and lesbians to bring “bedroom habits” into “the public arena.” A specific response to that must depend on what you really mean by “the public arena.” If you mean Gay Pride parades, then you are talking about people sufficiently lacking in fear that they are prepared to defy and mock the “adverse reaction.” If you mean a simple wish to acknowledge publicly one’s sexual partner, then you and I are equally guilty: we do that all the time. Why don’t you have a problem with this desire on the part of heterosexuals? Why doesn’t it make our lives miserable by “adverse reaction”?

 

I am talking about individuals who have obtruded such personal matters on us in this Diocese through a Synod resolution. The difficulty is that in the case of homosexual ‘partners’ the wish is by no means “simple”, in its nature or its consequences. Some of us would argue that it is not merely a request that the Church pronounce God’s blessing on something both unbiological and contrary to His revealed will, but that there is no sex in any meaningful sense between same-sex people. I believe that there is no ‘union’ possible in such relationships, so that those who want such ‘unions’ ‘blessed’ are wanting what is not to be had, and twice over.

            There are indeed ways of heterosexual relating which, if I indulged in them and told everyone about it, I should expect to attract some very sharp adverse reactions, in any Church setting which claimed to be catholic.

 

(And you can’t answer “Because heterosexual sex is not sinful, homosexual sex is,” because that is, more or less, the question we’re debating. To assert it as an argument in the debate is begging the question.)

 

Really, Hugh! You write as though I had conceived some innovative idea about Christian sex-ethics and were trying to put it over on everybody else. Hasn’t it crossed your mind that the onus of proof is on those who wish to change Christianity at this point?

I am STILL waiting to hear the case for the inherent goodness and beauty of homosexual acts. It is not established by an assertion, however often repeated, that perhaps they are not sinful after all.

As good a case, if not better, could be made for “loving, consensual” father-daughter incest. I cannot see that any conduct is improved or rendered acceptable by an undertaking to engage in it exclusively or for a lifetime.

 

As to your second comment, the issue is not whether people can avoid acting on their passions – that’s a red herring.

 

Actually it is pivotal.

 

Celibacy is an option for anyone; most do not desire or choose that option. Our branch of the Church decided long ago that it should be considered a calling, not a requirement for anyone, even clergy. What do you mean by suggesting that the great majority of us who choose the other (i.e., non-celibate) option are “infantilised”? (The word doesn’t usually mean “one who acquires an infant”! :-)

 

In practical terms, indefinite celibacy is both calling and requirement for all Christian people who are not led into marriage. We are expected to abstain apart from marriage. This may come to be part of the cost of discipleship, and a major part of our Christian testimony. Not, of course, that Christian married people are having a non-stop riot either…

            I was speaking of homosexuals as being infantilised by the suggestion that they, and they only, of rational adults with access to all the grace that is poured out on us all daily, cannot keep the Christian standard. That is so contemptuous! As well as being factually inaccurate in very large numbers of cases.

 

So when I say “only possible behaviour” I am not talking about “behaviour” in relation to the celibacy option, but rather the choice of partner for a loving, pleasurable, non-celibate life. If you still think “hetero-behaviour” is a genuine option for homosexuals, try to imagine exploring “homo-behaviour” yourself, or read (as I did) the story of a gay evangelical Christian who tried conventional marriage – and finally realized he was living a lie.

 

There will always be anecdotes, but we all know that one swallow does not make a summer. Alcoholism is very hard to break when the underlying neediness remains unaddressed. I have myself never known well any homosexually-inclined person free of such deep neediness. The neediness is treatable, and often the homosexual desires will die away when treatment has been accepted.

            Perhaps, for all any of you know, I do not need to “imagine” such explorations.

“Homo-behaviour” is something which strikes me as tragically boring and frustrating, especially for me as a woman: the male of the species may get up a back-passage, the female gets nowhere fast. To be stuck in immature, superficial titillations, without penetration, awakening, impregnation, always travelling and never arriving, when there are such gorgeous creatures as men in the world, is a deeply sad missing of God’s best for us.

As for “the choice of partner for a loving, pleasurable, non-celibate life”, what are we saying about our rights here? As we have asked before, are there rights when there are felt wants rather than actual needs? How does this kind of attitude differ from “If it feels good, do it”?

I think it not unsuitable to append in this connection a long quotation from Lewis on Love:–

 

Sexuality may operate without Eros or as part of Eros. Let me hasten to add that I make the distinction simply in order to limit our inquiry and without any moral implications. I am not at all subscribing to the popular idea that it is the absence or presence of Eros which makes the sexual act “impure” or “pure”, degraded or fine, unlawful or lawful. If all who lay together without being in the state of Eros were abominable, we all come of tainted stock. The times and places in which marriage depends on Eros are in a small minority. Most of our ancestors were married off in early youth to partners chosen by their parents on grounds that had nothing to do with Eros. They went to the act with no other “fuel”, so to speak, than plain animal desire. And they did right; honest Christian husbands and wives, obeying their fathers and mothers, discharging to one another their “marriage debt”, and bringing up families in the fear of the Lord. Conversely, this act, done under the influence of a soaring and iridescent Eros which reduces the role of the senses to a minor consideration, may yet be plain adultery, may involve breaking a wife’s heart, deceiving a husband, betraying a friend, polluting hospitality and deserting your children. It has not pleased God that the distinction between a sin and a duty should turn on fine feelings. This act, like any other, is justified (or not) by far more prosaic and definable criteria; by the keeping and breaking of promises, by justice or injustice, by charity or selfishness, by obedience or disobedience.

Thus God, admitted to the human heart, transforms not only Gift-love but Need-love; not only our Need-love of Him, but our Need-love of one another. This is of course not the only thing that can happen. He may come on what seems to us a more dreadful mission and demand that a natural love be totally renounced... Eros, directed to a forbidden object, may have to be sacrificed. In such instances, the process, though hard to endure, is easy to understand. [From C.S. Lewis The Four Loves, pp. 85-6]

 

The main “harms no-one else” body of your message I find hard to respond to in any meaningful way, since it seems so far from relevant. Your long list of “harms” seems to belong mostly to the heterosexual world, and again contains what I perceive as false assumptions.

 

I think that in order to be plainer I must paraphrase and make less impersonal my catalogue of ‘visible harms’. Persons who seek or are involved in same-sex ‘unions’ will have sinned against other human beings in at least one, frequently more, of the following ways: they will have betrayed a spouse, deserted offspring, confused adolescents going through the normal ambivalence of their time of life, blotched the Christian witness in society, violated the Christian consciences of all aware of their behaviour, permanently dead-ended their own and often another’s life, broken the heart of a heterosexual lover, failed to give marriage to some man or maiden, reinforced their own emotional coldness and ruthless selfishness, failed to labour and sacrifice so that children might be born to serve God and the world. These are all visible or palpable harms. At the very least, they will have harmed themselves by deepening instead of seeking healing for their emotional neediness, which is observably present in many such persons, and is arguably in most cases the root of which homosexual desire is the fruit; and harmed themselves by putting themselves by biologically bizarre behaviour into a position where it is natural to feel a sense of alienation from the Creator of one’s body.

None of these harms is inherent in heterosexual Christian marriage.

 

Thus you speak of “the demand that the Church ‘bless’ and so whitewash what the individual knows to be deeply wrong.” But surely those who seek such a blessing are exactly those who neither know nor believe their union to be “deeply wrong,” but rather consider it a thing they wish to offer before God. (Perhaps, if you think God won’t accept that offering, you should step aside and let Her deal with it?? :-) Once again, aren’t you begging the question by taking for granted that the subject of our discussion is sin?

 

Are you sure that the whole push for public blessings is not a symptom of guilt denied?

The closest any of us has ever come to knowing the mind of God about anything is the teaching and example of Jesus Christ. All of us need to “step aside” for Him, and we need to do that not only in respect of those aspects of ethics, e.g. justice, which appeal more to us than others do. Hands up all those who genuinely believe that He could have endorsed, tolerated or practised homosexual relations. Let’s have it right out in the open in this debate.

 

More seriously (for me), you seem again to be trivializing or evading (without saying so explicitly) the very real, genuine, deep harm that results from the sin (as I would say) of homophobia. (I guess it is time to name the evil that has all along driven me into this debate.) Curiously, this present exchange is the result of my simple 3-line answer to a question you had asked (way back on Dec. 6), in the course of one of those evasions: “None of us can be in favour of cruelty to anyone,” you said (conceding an inch), “but it is important to get this particular case into proportion. Is objection to particular types of behaviour unkind?”

I answered, in effect, “Yes, sometimes,” and tried to characterize those times in a few words. I wonder whether this simple idea has been in any way clarified by your response “Must Sin Involve Visible Harm?” and my present rebuttal. Certainly our debate is proceeding at a rather glacial pace. I’ve a few minutes to finish this before plunging into the Jubilee conference – which will occupy me for the full weekend. After that I’ll try to think of a more direct approach than all this back-and-forthing about small (even if important) details. But I must add a word about your title. I did not suggest that sin must involve “visible harm,” nor, I suspect, would you. Perhaps a better question might be the other way around: “Must visible harm involve sin?” Certainly I would be inclined to say that going out of one’s way (or not) to cause (or even fail to prevent) harm (visible or not) to another IS sin. And my main theme in the current debate is that, directly or indirectly, the Church’s traditional teaching about homosexuality has done just that to gay and lesbian people.

 

Which begs the question indeed.

Actually I was trying to get down to brass tacks with my new topic. Is sin a merely sociological category? Are we answerable only to other people? If so why give it a theological name or drag God into it at all? Unless parts of the Christian revelation (perish the thought!) are merely useful as a handy stick to beat certain actions and attitudes out of devout people? And other parts are disposable?

            The classic statement of the nature of sin is in Ps. 51. After a series of very destructive offences against human beings, the guilty writer says, with Hebraic hyperbole, that his sin was against God only. As surely all our unrealised evil imaginings are.

 

Love as Glop

 

When I was young, there was suet pudding. It was thought to be useful if not essential to the diet of growing children.

When I was young, there were necessary medicines which came in the form of huge round pills or bitter powders.

When I was young, a woman in England slowly murdered her unwanted husband with cumulative doses of arsenic.

 

When I was young, there was Golden Syrup. It rendered the tasteless interesting, the unpalatable acceptable and the poisonous apparently harmless. Thus was born Treacle Pudding.

 

Is the Love of God, or our Christian love, Golden Syrup, which if poured out in sufficient quantity renders even what is noxious sweet and good? If so, then “Come let us sin, that grace may abound!” [Rom. 6:1] Dietrich Bonhoeffer had a term for that: Billige Gnade, or Cheap Grace. In Anglispeak that is “Confess, communicate and carry on”. I will not be found supporting, let alone subsidising in the Rectory, any such thing in my Church.

 

 

[I’ve finally “decoded” this last of Prisca’s burst of messages back in January and February (I’m afraid I’d forgotten there was one more that hadn’t yet been printed). It annoys me so much that I’ll respond right away, and then (I hope) find time to go back and give a more organized reply to some other points.]

 

Prisca writes:

 

          Did Someone Say Something about the Plight of Homosexuals?

 

Why, YES, Prisca – I believe I did! Several times, in fact. With a few specific examples.

In fact, THAT’S THE MAIN THING I’VE BEEN TALKING ABOUT IN THIS WHOLE CONVERSATION, FROM THE START!!

 

Excuse me for shouting. But, Prisca, your replies have given me every reason to believe that (on this topic at least) you suffer very seriously from hardness of hearing.

 

Each time I have made such a comment, you have questioned it, doubted it, ignored it, trivialized it, or said “We aren’t talking about that.” To which my response is YES WE ARE, and it’s about time you acknowledged that it is a reality, and one that we Christians have to take some responsibility for!

 

For example, in the exchange prior to the message I am now replying to, you had said “How many people are genuinely badly treated for simply being homosexual?” (aren’t any too many?) – and then went on to note the difficulties of being female. Fair enough; that’s a similar problem (not our topic here), but it doesn’t negate the problem we ARE talking about! I didn’t quarrel with you, but did note that “some of the traditionalists determined not to allow equal status for homosexuals are also determined not to allow the same for women,” (referring to dissidents in the U.S. Episcopal Church who seem to reject both homosexual and female priests). You replied:

 

I hold absolutely no brief for those who would deny my equality as a woman, in or out of church.

 

and continued with a sermonette on equality for women. (You needn’t say that to me! Perhaps you should direct it to some of those on your side of the current sexuality debate!)

 

In the earlier exchange I had added my expectation that you, a female, (just exactly because of the history you cite) “might be more sensitive than others to the plight of homosexuals in our society” – to which your response was a graphic rant about the sufferings of women in various of the world’s societies, ending with

 

             ... Have I said enough?

            I am still waiting for the privileged professional victims of the West to get their eyes up off themselves and to lift one finger for women who suffer like this!!! This is the kind of identification which would commend itself to me, not an attempt to use the truly oppressed as a stalking-horse for homosexual or other vice.

 

-- still, it seems, demeaning the very real suffering of homosexuals!

 

Then you add:

 

            I think it not inappropriate to mention that for good measure my ancestry on my mother’s side (the side that counts in this context!) is Jewish. Now the Jewish Holocaust really was persecution for what one was and could not help: Christian people and atheists of Jewish origin perished equally in the gas chambers.

 

So, I remind you, did homosexuals!!!

 

What does it take, Prisca, to get you to admit, and express some concern for, the pretty obvious truth that homosexuals in our own society have been a persecuted group? I had tried to make the abstract issue concrete and real and human by naming for you one recent, local victim – Hamed Nastoh (the 14-year old so tormented at school by being called gay, though he probably wasn’t, that he killed himself just over a year ago by jumping off Patullo Bridge) – ending, a bit sarcastically, “Of course, that’s only one (and maybe he doesn’t count because he wasn’t really gay).” Your only response:

 

            How could anyone tell either way? ... I ask again, where is ‘gayness’ located? Would an autopsy have revealed it?

 

Prisca, what does it matter whether he was really gay? He was treated as such, so badly that he could not bear to live. HE’S DEAD, Prisca; his family still mourn him. DON’T YOU CARE? Does your treatment as a woman make that seem trivial? Is he, to you, only a “privileged professional victim”?

 

I had then raised the question whether Christian teaching had some responsibility for Hamed’s death, suggesting that “Christian teaching doesn’t create bullies, but it may ‘give them permission’ to target gays, or perhaps to use ‘gay’ as a put-down taunt.” Your response (in part):

 

          I really don’t know what was at work there, except the aforesaid natural bloody-mindedness of adolescent children. ... But certainly sheer IGNORANCE of Christianity is quite as likely to have been a factor, isn’t it?

 

Both my wife and my teen-aged granddaughter were rather shocked by your characterization of adolescents. I do not know whether the bullies who drove Hamed to suicide were Christian or not. What was reported (later) was that some caring teachers proposed the formation of “gay-straight alliance clubs” as a means through which students could face these issues, perhaps learn a little more, and come to realize that none of them are monsters – in the hope of preventing future events of this kind. The opposition to this idea (which I thought very creative) was sharp and public – and came principally from avowedly Christian parents!!

 

 

I think I need to use the word I have been avoiding, to be clear what I am really talking about. Homophobia is a very real and widely present factor in our society and culture (and perhaps even more so in other cultures). Literally of course, the word means “fear” of the homosexual, but I think the fear comes associated (in varying degrees) with disgust and hatred. Certainly the common use of the word conjures more the sense of hatred than of fear. It is homophobia that has created the persecution and misery of homosexual people. That is a reality – whether Prisca will admit it or not!

 

 

My principle argument from the beginning of this conversation can then be stated very concisely:

          homophobia is incompatible with love;

          the “traditional” biblically-based teaching about homosexual behaviour supports homophobia;

          and (therefore) that teaching violates the law of love, and needs to be challenged.

 

Hugh,

 

What I believe you undertook to do was to provide a Scriptural and theological argument for the acceptability, and thus the Churchly blessing, of “same-sex unions”. What your argument amounts to, however, as you say, is that homosexuals, whether real, reputed or lyingly identified as such, have been persecuted. This is illogical, as you will soon see if you substitute for homosexual practice any behaviour generally recognised as wrong – homophobic persecution, for example. Your argument would then read: homophobic[3] persecution is acceptable because homophobes are treated badly nowadays. Or paedophilia is fine because the other day two vigilantes apparently took and murdered an alleged violent paedophile. Or damned annoying behaviour on the part of a wife is good, because some men are given to beating up their spouses…

Actually, I have consistently had both ears cocked, listening hard for a half-cogent argument from you for the acceptability of homosexual relations as an Anglican Christian behaviour. That argument has not yet been made, in my view, and I do not know anyone who thinks that it has. Sometimes nothing is heard, not because of deafness, but because no sound is being emitted. You are really going to have to try harder, and you haven’t many days to do it in. I have taken your argument piece by piece and line by line, grain by grain I have sifted and shaken it, factually, logically, philosophically and theologically, without resort to emotion or personal abuse of anyone. I have uncovered, I think to everyone, all the assumptions which underlie it. It has been weighed most thoroughly in the balance, and found wanting. If you cannot do better, your case, even if won at Synod, will remain empty of all consistency.

            Recently you used a very revealing expression, when you referred to the attitudes of “the moral guardians of society” (or some such phrase) and implicitly or explicitly associated the Church with them. Clearly you think of God’s people in this place as powerful and capable of exercising some kind of tyranny over others. Where is this powerful Church? There is no such entity here and nowadays: our Diocese, or at least that part of it which is opposed to Motion 9, is pleading in the face of a powerful secularist lobby for the freedom to live its own life, begging for Jubilee from enslavement to worldly oppression. Ostensibly in the name of love, some, it seems to me, are showing an active, destructive hatred for the Church. Who will stand with her?


Christ’s Obedience and Ours

 

As I meditate this week on Our Lord’s perfect obedience, and on why He was able to say, “It is accomplished”, I have been realising again how sophisticated is the New Testament’s interpretation of the Old, in this as in other matters. None of the authors, apart from a less advanced technology, was in any sense a primitive (as indeed none of the Old Testament writers were either). The provisions of the Mosaic Law are shown in the New Testament to be firstly religious and ceremonial, secondly civil and criminal, lastly moral. Our Lord fulfilled the whole caboodle, as Substitute, as Representative and/or as Exemplar.

            For about nineteen centuries it has been held that sex-ethics were part of that third area of the Torah, and that in that area Christian disciples are obliged to seek to follow His example, as an essential part of their obedience. Enabling us to do this is one aspect of what He accomplished.

 

 

Can Same-Sex Persons Unite?

 

My query about unions is much more “of the earth, earthy”: I want to know how between people of the same sex any union is established in bed. Sexually unconsummated marriages are not marriages in the sight of God or the State, however fine the relationships may be in other respects. They are, or may be, annulled, as never having been in existence. I’m not here talking Roman doctrine of intentionality (Rome as is well known will annul for a price even after 20 children), but Anglican and scriptural doctrine about the one-flesh union. That union is our “outward and visible sign”, and the couple minister the sacrament to one another.

            If this Dialogue can’t call a spade a spade, I don’t know where to go for guidance. I may have to resort to asking my crude question, the one which was never answered, again next year at Synod. That’ll make it three years I’ve been waiting...

            As for the bisexuals, I don’t think that they are asking for their relationships to be baptized in our church: what kind of ‘union’ they might be wanting must depend on whether there’s an ‘r’ in the month, or something!

            Ron may want to censor out that last remark, at least. In my family, though, we sometimes used a little mirth to our siblings if they were being really silly.

 

 

The “Jesus Said Nothing” Argument

 

If anyone purporting to provide serious, professional study materials has genuinely asserted that Our Lord had nothing to say about homosexual relations, the process is fatally vitiated.

            It cannot be stated too strongly that His teaching about sin includes at least one term for sexual sin the Aramaic original of which must, in His mind and in the mind of all His hearers, have covered that perversion too. If He had not meant to imply that, he was unqualified to teach in that time and place; if He actually involved Himself in that or any other cruelty or vice (and most vices are cruel to somebody!) He was not the person the Church has always believed Him to be.

            I have said this in print; it seems that some have not read what is readily available for their instruction on this point.



[1] In this edition the initiatives are in Plain, the responses in Italics, and the two interlocutors are differentiated by font and colour.

[2] Gerry Hunter of this Diocese, who had recently posted some very alarming statistics about illnesses among homosexually active males.

[3] Which actually etymologises as “to do with fear/horror of the identical”, but it’s probably too late to amend this modern use.